Dilemma

Based on an incident that happened last week too, that made me totally uncomfortable. Here is what I think:
Although I don't like to admit it but I am shy and I am doing my best to hide it especially at work not to be comprehended as lack of communication skills.
But eventually it shows. but in another form… as indifference or as if I don't care ….because of my deadly attempts to conceal it
When I start feeling that people are getting this impression, I tend to offer more attention to make it up and maintain a balance so they begin to feel as if I am treating them in a special way. So what are the choices … the fake balance is impossible.
I don't want to seem weird but the other signals don't stop popping up. The good news is I never behave or say anything inappropriate or irrelevant that may embarrass me but I do something that may be worse… shuuuuuuuuuuuush !, yes that's what I do and yes I know … how rude. The only exception is when criticized … I speak up other than that, nothing.
So when someone does me a real big favor, I say thanks and stuff but I don't say enough. When I should reply to a compliment, I just change the subject. When I am mad at someone … I don't say a word.
I have posted before a post called "words unspoken" and I am still struggling to bring them up to the surface.